destruction

i was takling to a friend the other day.
he's so nice that even though he knows someone doesn't like him, he still welcomes him to turn back to him instead of hiding from that guy.
he said, anything u do that'll hurt relationship b/t brothers and sisters is not pleasing to God.
we shouldn't destroy relationships in church but to do build-up works.
that's so true. y should we do sth like that?
even though u r deceived, even though u r hurt, even though u r pissed, and even though u r innocent, can u forgive n move on?
we all know who the judge is.
and we all know who are NOT the judges.
then.. shall we do what God wants us to do?
building up brothers and sisters instead of magnifying the pain and spreading it to others?

Lord... bless those who listen to u....